Listen!
“Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?”
- Leo Buscaglia
It’s trash, for cryin’ out loud … throw it out!
Garbage of any kind is a hindrance to how we live our lives. The longer we keep it, the more it rots and stinks and weighs us down.
The effort of carrying any of it around with us severely limits our abilities to freely think, feel, and move at our highest and best potential. It’s heavy, and as we dump it, the freer and lighter we are.
Healing happens … when that happens.
Anything that causes you to feel down emotionally is ready for the trash bin.
Dump it. Here. There’s no wrong way to do it. Just do it!
Here’s what you do:
Type a brief description of the thing, the event, the person, the circumstance, the happening … below.
And let it go. I mean … just let it go! Make it a goal to help us all feel better about our lives when we read about the crap that you’re going through!
Remember, it’s all about unconditional acceptance, love, and forgiveness. Ok? Start now.
March 16, 2012 at 10:05 am
Those are really good choices Lauren! “Do I want to experience peace, or do I want to experience conflict?” This is a good question to ask ourselves… one that definitely deserves an answer! And to accept that we really do have a choice in the matter, well… now, we’re beginning to live!
March 16, 2012 at 5:08 am
I’m tired of feeling upset when I had plans that didn’t go through or i didn’t get to go where i wanted to go. Other things tend to pop up, but my mood crashes the fun I could’ve been having if I stopped feeling sorry for myself about missing out on a “plan”. I want to let go needing other people to act a certain way or give me a certain kind of attention in order to find happiness. Happiness comes from within, and even though I have always known it’s a choice, sometimes I feel the need to show others that I’m not 100% because then they will ask what’s wrong and give me attention. I forgive myself for needing attention, and will try my best to realise that the only attention I need is from myself. I choose to be filled with joy and tranquility. I choose love.
July 25, 2011 at 8:21 am
I let go of the baggage I keep carrying around. I let go of the deep belief I seem to have that i must suffer. I let go of the need to punish myself. I let go of the idea that I am unworthy.
(Way to go John! These “lies” we’re so used to telling ourselves are just that… completely false. Your real truth is nothing like this, and You know what it is. – Jerry)
August 3, 2010 at 4:21 am
I am letting go of all the pain and sorrow that infidelity has caused in my marriage. Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself and I have been a happier person for having done so. So here it is, you messed up big time but who am I to judge. I am the happiest woman alive since I let it all go!!!!!!!!!
June 15, 2010 at 12:28 am
I release the need for me to make excuses for myself for why I can’t have my dreams.
I’M GOING TO ITALY DAMMIT!!
February 16, 2010 at 10:39 am
I let go of all RELUCTANCE to express myself… I let go of the clogginess (?) that holding onto what I need to say causes… I let go of the barriers and walls that stop me from doing what I know I should be doing. It’s GONE!
February 9, 2010 at 5:30 pm
Am I the only person on the planet who likes to “reward” himself whenever he’s doing GREAT on his health plan? By reward, I mean eating stuff that I know is really not serving me, or isn’t authentic to who I really am.
I’m stopping this crap right now.
Sugar does NOT have a hold on me anymore… I’m letting GO of the sugar-addiction!
January 26, 2010 at 9:31 pm
So I’ve kinda been off track this week. I’ve been eating more than I should be, and I figure it’s because I won’t let myself feel good about myself for more than five minutes. Which is extremely frustrating!!!! I have been a slave to my cravings for the past few days, and I don’t like it. I want to go back to where I was, eating with resolve and purpose–not out of boredom or emotional filling. What is it that makes bad habits so hard to break, and good habits so hard to make and MAINTAIN?? Everything I’ve been reading has pointed directly to being healthier, yet I’m deviating from my plan. Poop.
I think I might have gained back half the weight I lost…I’m afraid to jump on the scale. I don’t want to settle for less, any longer…again haha.
I guess that’s the good thing about this whole process–I keep reminding myself of how much I want health every time I make a bad eating decision. I can’t remember who said this, but I agree completely: “never waste a perfectly good mistake.”
January 20, 2010 at 4:01 pm
I want to let go of my needs …
My need to be in control
My need to understand
My need to be loved the way I want to be loved
My need to be “doing” something all the time
And the big one …
My need to need.
January 20, 2010 at 2:31 pm
Start accepting myself. Be gentle and loving with myself. Mistakes are necessary for learning and is a part of life. No more beating myself up !
Focus on my creativity. What do I want to do today? Others are doing their best also. Don’t think less of them. Just love them all.
January 18, 2010 at 9:31 am
I let go of the judgement I have of myself for over-doing it yesterday at the lunch-buffet at the Huntington Gardens. I’m not a horrible, weak, dishonest, pathetic man.
It all tasted fantastic, and I’m not going to turn the whole fun event into a “bad” or “wrong” thing …
I’m looking forward to a day of BEING the perfect being that I am!
January 17, 2010 at 1:33 am
I realized tonight that I still have a LOT of resentment and anger towards men. I thought I was kind of done with it, but I guess not. Will I ever be done with it?….
I said some really harsh things to a co-worker on impulse, because I’ve always loved the role of taking down someone’s ego a notch or two…only to build up my own defenses, my own fragile ego. And for what? To feel powerful over them? To make myself feel like I’m better than they are? That’s not true power.
It’s almost always the ones I’m attracted to in some lame way that spark this fire in me, and I feel that it is a very very “useful” tool for keeping someone at an arm’s distance, to protect myself from pain. But the irony is that I only hurt myself in the process of trying to protect myself.
I choked back the tears about to well up into my eyes as they turned around on me and told me that though I very honestly tell it how it is, that it can be too much at times, hurtful to the people around me. I retorted with, ” yeah, sorry I just have something against guys” as if that justified lashing out. Long story short, they made me think about all of it. The resentment, the anger, the fear I feel when I’m around guys…I’m so sick of dealing with these roller coaster-y emotions around them. It’s unbelievably tiring.
I forgive myself for lashing out, and I’m letting it all go one step at a time.
January 15, 2010 at 5:44 pm
Ego here, ego there, ego ego everywhere! The more I go along in my life, the more I realize that my ego is running my life. “It” has even gone to the extreme of being proud of “itself” for “appearing to be humble”. Well, I guess this is just part of the onion layers being peeled away.
My good friend Jerry Hannan talks a lot about attachment, and how life may just be better letting some things go, and I am just now starting to see that. I know my life will improve when I unattach from ego and the stuff I have, the credit score I maintain and all of the expectations of who I “should” be.
I was at my happiest a couple of summers ago in Spain when every day was a new adventure. I did not spend a lot of money there and the people I hung out with didn’t make a ton of money either. But we CONNECTED. I think I will connect in life better if I have a little gentle talk with my ego, and ask it to take a supporting role. There can be so much richness in life when you peel the onion layers back.
January 14, 2010 at 9:51 am
I throw out ALL resistance to using my God-given abilities … especially the ones that give me joy to share. I will not let my fear of what others think determine my course of action!
January 13, 2010 at 9:12 pm
I snapped at my sister tonight, and I feel really bad about it. I called her a bad name, and it’s ironic because the name I called her only shows how insecure I was feeling at the moment. I hate that she knows how to push my buttons in all the right places, and I resent that she resents me for being responsible and happy. Well, I’m not sure if I can ever be completely rid of this sister dynamic, but I let this certain experience go and will continue to work on staying level headed and nonreactive when she gets in my grill. Oh, and I forgive myself for calling her a bad name.
(Good job, Heather … and thanks! J)
January 13, 2010 at 8:06 pm
I’m throwing out my guilt for pointing out to my best friend that I am not a punching bag.
After all, he was having to place his mom in a convalescent home and was freaking out about not being able to provide at home care for her any longer (but he did for 4 years!). I was frustrated that he was focusing on the fact that he could no longer afford it vs. the fact that he was able to keep her at home for the 4 years he did.
I felt put upon and said so. I thought he should be elated that the gods were smiling down upon us and space suddenly became available at the very facility (highly recommended) that we had been waiting on for months.
This year I will be more tolerant of everyone but, most important of all, I will be more tolerant of MYSELF!
(Thanks Dee! Keep it coming! J)
January 13, 2010 at 7:59 pm
I am WILLING! to choose my thought rather than be a victim of them.
(Who’s a victim?! Not us!! Thanks Wally … J)
January 13, 2010 at 4:02 pm
Well I am feeling a bit bummed because I got termed yesterday! Well actually I was on a contract and the budget has run out. So while my boss is telling me I am doing an awesome job, there is this little problem of paying me for it. My ego doesn’t understand the difference — I have never been termed in my entire life. EVER! Anyway, it is a humbling experience.
(Wow! Can you imagine what’s around the corner if you really let this go?! Way to go, Steve!)
January 13, 2010 at 9:22 am
Why is it, that a 56 year old man who’s built like a Greek god (that is, if there’s a Greek god out there built like a refrigerator) is STILL insecure when in a locker room shower? I’ve spent most of my life in athletics on the highest levels, and there’s still that tiny bit of fear and judgement that is present when around other naked men … I LET IT GO!!!
I’ll bet there’s only a handfull of men right now who’re writing about the Greek god they’re totally intimidated by that they see at the pool …
Yeah, right … I let THAT go too!
January 12, 2010 at 10:19 am
All my fears, doubts, and insecurities surrounding all the drama of the family ski trip coming up.
I take 100% responsibility for creating the uncomfortable feelings wafting around the situation … and I let them ALL go!
Good bye! So long! Sayonara!
P.S. I forgive myself for being so “dramatic”!
January 12, 2010 at 10:19 am
I’m throwing in the trash of feeling hurt, angered and unappreciated when I did not get a Christmas Bonus this year. BE GONE!!! I’m so blessed to have a job, great health, loving friends and so much more! Be gone anger and hello LOVE!!!
January 11, 2010 at 11:46 pm
I was really disappointed today. I let a silly number control how I felt about myself and what I’ve been doing this whole week. I expected my weight to simply just “drop off” since I’ve been eating so well, but I realize that it doesn’t work that way…at least for me.
I let it kind of ruin my whole day, and my first thought was (please excuse my french) “F@%# IT!! I knew it wouldn’t work!” but that’s a silly thought, because it’s only been a week! And i feel so much better, and I look so much better. I guess I was just expecting the number to reflect how I felt.
I think that’s my problem in general. I expect WAY too much of myself, from people, from life…it’s led me into all kinds of trouble, hurt, and disappointment. But I don’t know how to have no expectations. How on earth are you not supposed to have any expectations?! Sheesh.
Anyway, I broke down today, for more than one reason, but I’m only giving myself today to feel sorry for myself. After today, I will continue to stay on track, and keep my attention on the journey…not just the destination.
January 11, 2010 at 9:15 am
Here it is, January 11 … the year is flying by! And I’m still “suffering” from holding onto a huge resistance to “doing” what my “being” is inspiring me to do!
I let go of all the fears, needs for perfection, and everything else that I feel is causing me to NOT move forward!
I let go of my resistance to dumping my own trash, right here … all the time!
It’s GONE!!!! Yay!!!!!!!!!
P.S. I wasn’t very present with the beautiful young lady who helped me at the cafe this morning … I’ve got to look everyone in the eyes; make a connection with them; and send them the love they deserve! I forgive myself for being so distracted.
December 17, 2009 at 5:55 pm
Man, did I lose my patience with that lady at the dry cleaners … only half of my stuff was ready, even though I tried picking it up 1 day after she said it’d be done …
I’m freaking out a little about a song I’m supposed to sing at a family Christmas gathering … what the heck’s that all about?
December 17, 2009 at 11:38 am
I’m tossing into the trash heap all the horrible feelings (aka HATE) that I still hold for those that have done me wrong. I ma wadding it all up and throwing it away forever….enough!
November 27, 2009 at 2:12 pm
My judgement of myself for being so frustrated with the way my learning curve in dealing with this site is going. Be gone!
Beating myself up for eating so much on Thanksgiving … it’s gone on for 36 hrs. now … enough!